Yes, I've left my church (I hope). Is it really too much to ask for the Bible to be preached and studied with some application outside of psychobabble and self-esteem teaching? Is it too much to talk at least once in a while about what Jesus did at the cross? Is it too much to ask that at least once a month there is some explanation to non-believers how to receive Christ and why? And, finally, is it way too much to ask that the Holy Spirit is sensed at least a little bit in the service? And I know this is a BIG stretch---is it too much to ask that the church at least
try to pray for healing, both emotional and physical, and actually believe God might do it?
From the four churches I visited last summer and the one I visited today, I guess the answer is "yes," it's too much to ask. Well, I am going to visit a church each Sunday and then write about my experience here until I either find one, give up and don't go to church, or am forced back into my old one. I seem to present an unusual challenge for most churches - I go alone. Churches are very surprised that someone would come alone and usually don't have a clue as to what to do about it. I don't know why. It's really amazing to me that pastors and other church leaders cannot understand that not everyone comes with a church member and that some people actually do come alone. In my ex-church the pastor say that "studies show that most visitors are brought by someone already in the church." Oh really? What about the "others?" What about me? And what about some of you? Even couples that come and don't know anyone in the church are treted the way singles are. I know what you are going to say because I've heard it from some of you on the 'net. "My churhc wouldn't treat you like that." Are you sure? I would challenge you to open your eyes and find out for sure.
Newsflash!! Recent polls show there are more singles now in America than married ones, but America's church leaders continue to stay in ignorance. So, here is today's awful experience. Maybe the next church will be better.
I entered a building and on the left were stairs. I wasn't sure if I was to go upstairs as there no signs but I heard voices upstairs and so decided to climb the stairs. Once upstairs, I passed a coffee bar and tables to what I thought might be the sanctuary entrance. A man was at the door and I asked him if this was the church.
"uh huh," he replied. That was it. No "welcome." I assumed he was a greeter or usher but maybe he was just standing there, I don't know. There was no bulletin handed to me so I guessed they didn't use them here. Wrong. When I got inside and seated, on the screen at the front it talked about a bulletin. I found out later that the bulletin was obtained by picking it up somewhere out in the foyer where I had just been. Of course the church members already knew that but a visitor wouldn't.
I arrived 3 minutes before the service started and there probably were 10 people in the church. Most arrived late including the pastor. No one greeted me a the door and no one spoke to me in the church. I am a friendly approachable person so I wonder what happens to a shy one here in this church. I noticed that some people had bulletins so I asked the woman on my right where to get one. She said she would be happy to get one for me which she did and that was very nice. But see, people....I shouldn't have had to ask anyone. The bulletins should have been handed out or on each seat.
OK....so now the service started and the music part was very short, about three songs. Then a man made announcements and they passed the offering. After that the 50-ish-something pastor got up and spoke for an hour. He spoke on a chapter in Matthew. It was so fragmented with his nostalgia for the sixties and his warning us against global warming and other stuff politicians want to do to us to get us into fear, that I cannot tell you what the sermon was really about. What was annoying was he was trying to be 1960's cool. There were a few snickers when he tried to be funny-cool but when I looked over to the teens sitting in a group in the extreme right of the sanctuary, I didn't see most of them even crack a smile once. I imagine when they turn 18 they will be out of there.
After a half hour of this mess I prayed fervently for God to liberate us and have him end. But no, the hell dragged on another half hour. The pastor talked for a total of one hour. He was all over the map, talking about everything under the sun. Then he would go back to the scripture and then go off on a tangent again. This repeated itself several times. There might have been an application here but I certainly couldn't seem to get it. As far as the Holy Spirit was concerned, He seemed to be noticeably absent. Perhaps He went over to visit the liberal Presbyterian church, filled to the brim in two services, across the street from this one.
Finally, after an hour and a half, the gruesome experience was over. I got up to run out (almost literally) and the same woman on my right said goodbye. I thought that was nice.
Almost all the churches I visited last summer and today did not have any organizational structure for visitors. In fact, in some, including the one I visited today, people seemed to be surprised and almost shocked that a visitor would actually grace their church. But this church took the cake. It has to be the most visitor unfriendly one thus far.
Today's church - - a Calvary Chapel church.
I've heard downloads of talks given by two Calvary Chapel pastors at their pastor's conferences and I was impressed so I'm not saying all CC churches are this way. But denominations/conmvferences/ movements (many churches don't want the term "denomination attached which I personally think is silly when they are organized like one) need to help their pastors and cburch leaders learn how to teach their congregation to help and greet visitors and also to have an organizational intake system that works. In a few months I will present a comprehensive plan for visitor-intake. Maybe some pastor or elder somewhere will take notice. I hope so. So, next Sunday I will be visiting another church. Each Sunday I will tell you the denomination but not the church name or where it is located. I live in Los Angeles County in Southern California so of course it will be somewhere in that county.
Meanwhile, if you wish to read three of my blog posts that are related, here are the links:
My description of the four churches I visited last summer is
here.
One problem I've seen continually since I became a Christian 45 years ago is the problem of social ease in evangelicals. I wrote a post about that
here.
The response to the above post was disturbing to me so I tried to clarify what I said
here.