As I've said here before, God has been dealing with me about the severe age segregation in our churches. One of the main reasons many younger evangelicals aren't solid in their foundational doctrine is, I believe, the lack of relationship with older Christians. By "older" Christians I don't necessarily mean those over 65. But I do want to include that age group more than we are. I suppose that is because I am in that age group, albeit, among the younger ones. All of us over 40 need to "on purpose" find activities in our churches that will allow us to hobnob with younger adults and/or teens in addition to those groups of our own age. I would like to see the oldest class join the youngest adult class on a regular basis, perhaps for lunch once every two months or so. Something like that.
In my new church, which is centered around small groups, I "on purpose" picked the youngest group. Of course, by younger group I mean late 30's to middle 50's. Since 18-35 year olds are seldom found in our churches today, the 35-55 crowd is now often the youngest in the church. In some churches the 50-65 are the youngest. It's beginning to look like the old Soviet Union. Remember how we lamented that the only people who went to church there seemed to be old women? Well, welcome to the New Soviet Union--American-style. I am about 10-11 years older than the oldest in my group, so I am the "senior." I fit in very well which is a relief, because I wasn't sure how I would be received. I did ask the leader if I could join at my age or if they would rather keep it younger. Can you believe we have to ask that type of question today? The leader seemed to be surprised that I would ask such a question and said to me, "Of course you can come. We would love to have you." The reason I was so nervous about this was because the head of the group ministry told me I probably shouldn't join that group because it was "younger." Yes, folks, this attitude still persists in evangelical-land.
So, tell me if you are reaching out to older ones or younger ones in your church--depending on your age group.